The Crisis Center for Life Threatening Illness

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Friends In Deed, Inc. is a not-for-profit organization dedicated to providing emotional and spiritual support for anyone diagnosed with a life-threatening physical illness, for caregivers and for those living with grief.  Our groups and other holistic programs, services, workshops and classes are held in our loft space at 594 Broadway, Suite 706, New York, New York, 10012.  Friends In Deed welcomes those who rent space here to share in our sacred space.

See below for the room rental descriptions.  To reserve a room or for information on rates and schedule, please send an email to rentals@friendsindeed.org or call 212-925-2009, extension 203. Hourly and day rates available. 

OUR NEIGHBORHOOD… We are located in the heart of SoHo, just south of historic Greenwich Village and surrounded by galleries, museums, restaurants of all kinds, and the best shopping New York has to offer. We’re close to several subway and bus lines and off-the-street parking is available nearby. You’ll find some of the city’s premiere boutique hotels in the neighborhood as well.

THE BIG ROOM

Serene, spacious and extremely comfortable, our multi-purpose Big Room has been newly renovated and carpeted with wall-to-wall carpeting. Large windows on one side, high ceilings (including ceiling fan) and a banquette with cozy cushions make this room perfect for lectures, workshops, yoga classes, concerts and a wide array of meetings and performances. This room includes a Baby Grand piano. Room size approx. 736 square feet. Ceiling height 12 feet. Hourly and day rates available. 

THE LIVING ROOM

“Cozy” is a common word used to describe The Living Room. With a fabulously comfortable sofa, armless side chairs, banquette and controllable lighting dimmer, guests always feel relaxed in this peaceful space. Ideal for small workshops, meetings and classes. Freshly painted, The Living Room includes stylish coffee table and area rug as well as a top quality Bose acoustic music system. Room size approx. 506 square feet. Ceiling height 12 feet. Hourly and day rates available.

THE KITCHEN

You couldn’t ask for a better Gourmet Chef’s Kitchen. With elongated stainless steel counter top and a large amount of preparation space, The Kitchen is perfect for cooking classes, hands-on workshops or even just to prepare meals to be served in our other spaces. Includes microwave, refrigerator, ice machine, stove top oven, two conventional wall ovens, and instant hot water system. Kitchen size approx. 126 square feet. Ceiling height 12 feet. Hourly and day rates available.

ROOM 1

Intimate and peaceful, Room 1 is a perfect space for various forms of bodywork and massage. Use this calming and serene room for one-on-one appointments and lessons. Includes ceiling fan. Room size approx. 88 square feet. Ceiling height 12 feet. Hourly and day rates available.

ROOM 2

Newly painted, this meditative space is wonderful for classes, small workshops and various meetings. With wall-to-wall carpeting, ceiling fan and lighting dimmer, Room 2 is an ideal calming environment. Room size approx. 187 square feet. Ceiling height 12 feet. Hourly and day rates available. 

PLEASE NOTE:  We wish to maintain an atmosphere of affirmation, decorum and respect for the sacred space that is Friends In Deed.  Friends In Deed reserves the right to cancel any rental at any time when, in the sole view of Friends In Deed, the space is being used in ways that are inconsistent with the Friends In Deed values or that would disrupt the normal working atmosphere of Friends In Deed or the building.

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FRIENDS IN DEED
An Open Door For All
Since 1991, Friends has helped transform many thousands of lives through our programs and services. We provide emotional support for anyone with a diagnosis of HIV/AIDS, cancer or other life-threatening physical illnesses… their family, friends, and caregivers… and anyone dealing with grief and bereavement. And we run a major HIV prevention program for teens in NYC public schools.
All of our services are free of charge.

THE BIG GROUP
Sharing Feelings, Speaking the Truth, Living In the Moment

It all starts with the Big Group – the heart and soul of our work. The premise behind this meeting is deceptively simple. It’s about hearing and speaking the truth and living life in the moment. At the Big Group, we have the opportunity to express our emotions by sharing our feelings and experiences. We begin to recognize that we’re not alone on this journey and that it’s possible to have a life of quality, no matter how challenging the circumstances.

How to Start

ONE-ON-ONE CRISIS COUNSELING
Individualized Support
One of the most unique aspects of our work is the availability of one-on-one crisis counseling for anyone in need of more individualized support. Every month, 100 counseling appointments are scheduled with our exceptional team of therapists. While not intended as ongoing therapy, our one-on-one crisis counseling does provide essential assistance for people at particularly difficult periods in their lives.

THE BODY
Body Work, Yoga,& Meditation
Friends recognizes the interconnection between our physical and emotional well-being. That’s why we have a team of bodyworkers available to provide 100 bodywork sessions each month, that can include Reiki, Shiatsu, Reflexology, Polarity, Swedish, and CranioSacral Therapy and Breema. In addition, we have weekly classes in yoga and guided meditation.

INFORMATION& SUPPORT
Workshops & Seminars
We believe that information is power. Our experts offer advice on communicating with doctors, managing medications, and understanding the relationship between mainstream and alternative treatments. Our nutritional program shows the role food can play in dealing with illness. Our workshops enable people to make empowering choices. We help people develop the practical tools needed to move beyond preconceptions, whether dealing with illness, grief, or personal crisis.

LIFE-SAVING WORK WITH TEENS
HIV Prevention Program
Teens are one of the fastest growing segments of the AIDS epidemic. That’s why we created our School Program. In cooperation with the NYC Department of Education, we provide free HIV prevention workshops at public schools and at our location. What makes this program especially powerful is that our school speakers are living with HIV. Since the School Program began, we have reached more than 70,000 students.

THE VOLUNTEERS
Over 250 Helping Hands & Hearts
Friends is fortunate to have over 250 dedicated volunteers who generously give their time and talents – working an astounding 1,500 hours every month. They work at the reception desk, answer phones, accompany people to doctor visits, speak at schools, help with fundraising, provide invaluable outreach assistance for those who are homebound or hospitalized, and on and on. Without the help of these incredible men and women, Friends’ staff would be unable to accomplish all we do.

Friends In Deed STAFF
Uniquely Focused On Our Programs

We have six full-time and five part-time staff members. Unlike many organizations, the majority of our staff is actually involved in the hands-on work we do: leading Big Groups, one-on-one counseling, visiting hospitals, conducting workshops and more. To be as cost-efficient as possible, some of our key staff also play administrative roles. Plus, we have a small, dedicated fundraising team to support the work.

Staff
Cynthia O’Neal, President
Robert McNamara, Managing Director
Cynthia Burke, Outreach Director
Jon Read, Client Services Director
Michael Jones, School Program Director
Michele Esparza, Program Administrator
Michael Cohen, Administrative Assistant

Counselors
Scott Berliner
Robert Levithan
Robin Magid
Eric Schneider

Board of Directors
Robert Levithan, Co-Chairman
Hamilton South, Co Chairman
Mike Nichols, Chairman Emeritus
Cynthia O’Neal, President
Kenneth Starr, Treasurer
Ellen Barkin
Graydon Carter
Bette-Ann Gwathmey
Jane Holzer
Bryan Lourd
Carole Radziwill
John Remington
Jeffrey Seller
Heather Watts

Support Us

How can you become a “Friend”

It’s simple. Anyone who is interested in our services, or feels moved to contribute his or her own resources of time, kindness, or financial support, is welcome.

VOLUNTEERS ARE ALWAYS NEEDED

Volunteering is the cornerstone of Friends In Deed. We’re able to do all the work we do because of our incredible volunteers. And we’re always looking for more help. Our volunteers work at the reception desk, answer phones, accompany people to doctor visits, help with fundraising, work with the computers, provide massage and body work services, visit those who are homebound or hospitalized… and on and on. Without the help of these incredible men and women, Friends’ staff would be unable to accomplish all we do.

If you’re interested in volunteering, the first step is to attend one of our six weekly Big Groups and come to the front desk after the meeting. For more information, contact our Program Manager, Michele Esparza at 212-925-2009.

Friends In Deed is an Accredited Charity of the BBB and a proud participant in the Charity Seal Program, which indicates that our organization has met the 20 Standards for Charity Accountability.  For more information about the Standards, please visit the BBB of Metro New York’s website at www.newyork.bbb.org

Other Ways you can help

Make a Monthly Pledge
Pledging a monthly contribution is an easy way to support Friends throughout the year. Just tell us what you would like to contribute monthly, and Friends will charge this amount to your credit card. It’s an easy way to budget your donation and improve our cash flow.

Donate Stocks, Bonds & Securities
Donating stocks, bonds, equities, or other securities, can help Friends by building future equity into our portfolio. Your tax-deductible amount is the market value at the time of donation. Please contact our portfolio manager, Steve Sheresky, at J.P. Morgan Securities Inc.— at (212) 272-7004. His office will assist you in your donation and answer any questions you might have.

Check for Matching Grants
Many corporations have Employee Matching Grant programs. For every dollar you donate to Friends, your company may match it or even double it. Ask your Human Resource Administrator for the matching gift form you can include with every donation you make to Friends In Deed.

Create Personal Fundraisers
Including Friends In Deed in a personal celebration can be a wonderful way to support our work. You could hold a small dinner party at home or a restaurant where a donation to Friends could be asked. One of our long-time supporters, Avalon Salon & Day Spa, used to hold a bake sale for Friends once a year. Others have donated the proceeds from club or theatre performances. And every year, many of our supporters ask for donations to Friends In Deed in lieu of birthday gifts. Now THAT’S giving. If you need help with an idea, just give us a call! The ideas and your imagination are limitless.

Name Friends In Deed as a Beneficiary
A residual effect of walking through our doors is the feeling of becoming part of an extended family. Leaving a legacy for the future will help future Friends who gather here for support. Confer with your lawyer on the types of charitable trusts, gifts of real estate and life insurance, and the many different types of bequest options available to you when considering making Friends In Deed a beneficiary.

Go SHOPPING for Friends In Deed on our      “WISH LIST”!
Now you can help us by purchasing items we really need to continue doing the work we do – some small, common items, some more extravagant – and you can do it all with a few clicks of your mouse! Just click here and you’ll be sent directly to our specific “Wish List” on amazon.com. The user-friendly prompts will guide you through the online purchase. You’ll see what items we need and you can choose what you’d like to purchase for us. Our shipping info is already in there so all you need to do is enter your address and payment information. It’s easy!

How You Can Become a “Friend”

It’s simple. Anyone who is interested in our services, or feels moved to contribute his or her own resources of time, kindness, or financial support, is welcome.

VOLUNTEERS ARE ALWAYS NEEDED
Volunteering is the cornerstone of Friends In Deed. We’re able to do all the work we do because of our incredible volunteers. And we’re always looking for more help. Our volunteers work at the reception desk, answer phones, accompany people to doctor visits, speak at schools, help with fundraising, make lunches, work with the computers, provide massage and body work services, visit those who are homebound or hospitalized… and on and on. Without the help of these incredible men and women, Friends’ staff would be unable to accomplish all we do.

If you’re interested in volunteering, the first step is to attend one of our six weekly Big Groups and come to the front desk after the meeting. For more information, contact our Director of Volunteers, Cynthia Burke at 212-925-2009 or cburke@friendsindeed.org.

YOUR GIFTS CAN HELP US CONTINUE THIS WORK
When Friends In Deed was founded at the height of the AIDS crisis, thousands of young people were suddenly facing their mortality. Our culture does not deal well with life-threatening illness, dying, and death. So we created a place where people could talk about what was happening, a place to get emotional support.

That conversation continues today… with people newly diagnosed with HIV and cancer… with teens coming of age sexually during the HIV epidemic… with long-term cancer and HIV survivors… with all those mourning the death of friends and family members.

Every day, we save lives. Not in the literal sense like doctors. But doctors are among our strongest supporters. They continue to refer their patients to Friends In Deed because they have witnessed the profound impact our work has on their patient’s lives and health.

Often there are circumstances in our lives that we cannot change. Our work at Friends In Deed is to support people in learning how to perceive their circumstances in a new way, so that their lives become richer and more peaceful. That’s what Friends In Deed is all about — making what seems unmanageable, manageable.

Your gift will help us continue this work.

To make a donation now, click here.

OTHER WAYS YOU CAN HELP
Make a Monthly Pledge
Pledging a monthly contribution is an easy way to support Friends throughout the year. Just tell us what you would like to contribute monthly, and Friends will charge this amount to your credit card. It’s an easy way to budget your donation and improve our cash flow.

Donate Stocks, Bonds & Securities
Donating stocks, bonds, equities, or other securities, can help Friends by building future equity into our portfolio. Your tax-deductible amount is the market value at the time of donation. Please contact our portfolio manager, Steve Sheresky, at Bear Stearns Securities Corp. (212) 272-6989. They will assist you in your donation and answer any questions you might have.
Check for Matching Grants
Many corporations have Employee Matching Grant programs. For every dollar you donate to Friends, your company may match it or even double it. Ask your Human Resource Administrator for the matching gift form you can include with every donation you make to Friends.

Create Personal Fundraisers
Including Friends In Deed in a personal celebration can be a wonderful way to support our work. You could hold a small dinner party at home or a restaurant where a donation to Friends could be asked. One of our long-time supporters, Avalon Salon & Day Spa, holds a bake sale for Friends once a year. Others have donated the proceeds from club or theatre performances. And every year, many of our supporters ask for donations to Friends in lieu of birthday gifts. Now THAT’S giving. If you need help with an idea, just give us a call! The ideas andyour imagination are limitless.

Name Friends as a Beneficiary
A residual effect of walking through our doors is the feeling of becoming part of an extended family. Leaving a legacy for the future will help future Friends who gather here for support. Confer with your lawyer on the types of charitable trusts, gifts of real estate and life insurance, and the many different types of bequest options available to you when considering making Friends In Deed a beneficiary.

When you give to Friends, you can make a difference in someone’s life because your money is used to support the hands-on work we do every day.

5 Principle to Remember If You’re Diagnosed with a Life Threatening Illness

When one is diagnosed with a life-threatening illness, it’s not uncommon to experience a period of “groundlessness.” It may feel as if your legs are literally knocked out from underneath you. Quite often, the diagnosis can send you into a state of confusion, shock and even terror. This is a normal response to very upsetting information. Friends In Deed is here to help you through these difficult times, to give you some perspective. Here are 5 principles to remember when you or someone you love is diagnosed with a life-threatening illness:

1) You are not your illness
In the period following a diagnosis, it’s easy to think of yourself and the illness as the same. You are not your illness. You may feel numb, unable to think of anything else, but it’s important to know that you’re the same person you were the day before the diagnosis. The cancer or the HIV or some other illness does not define you. You are a living, breathing person with an illness. After the initial shock and pain of the diagnosis subsides, it’s time to remember the rest of you.

2) You can handle this moment
No matter how challenging our circumstances – even in the midst of a diagnosis of a serious illness — most of us can handle life moment to moment. The anxiety we feel is about the future. It’s the result of all of the negative predictions that flood our mind. Take a deep breath. How do you feel right now? You can handle this moment. The only thing we really have is the present.

3) You can make choices
When you’re diagnosed with a life-threatening illness, you may be faced with a range of treatment options. Your doctor may strongly recommend a course of action. You may get second opinions and friends and family members may also weigh in with suggestions. Gather all the information you need, but remember there is nothing you have to do. You’re the only one person who truly knows your body. You have the power to make choices, to say “yes” or “no” to treatments.

4) You can have a life of quality regardless of the circumstances
All of us know people who appear to have been blessed by life. They have it all… and they’re miserable. Every day at Friends In Deed we talk to people who are facing a variety of challenges because of their illness, and so many of them are joyful and alive. Why is that? It’s all about perception. Having a life of quality is not about the circumstances, but how we view them. When faced with illness, many people realize how precious life is and they become determined to enjoy every moment of it.

5) You are not alone
It’s easy to feel frightened, powerless and alone when you’ve been diagnosed with a life-threatening illness. That’s why Friends In Deed is here. We’re a crisis center where you can find the emotional and spiritual support to help you through this challenging time. Come to a Big Group and discover that others are going through the same or similar experiences. We provide an open, nonjudgmental space where you can get in touch with your feelings. You’ll begin to see your circumstances from a much broader perspective. We can help you deepen your connection to the world and to yourself, while making you aware of your capacity to contain the seemingly uncontainable. You are not alone.

Appointment Procedures

Friends In Deed offers a limited number of free one-on-one appointments each week.  These appointments, which include crisis counseling, bodywork, and nutritional counseling, are given to those whose needs are most critical.

 

How do I request an appointment?

Appointments may ONLY be requested after attending a Big Group.  When the group ends, go to the front desk and fully complete an Appointment Request Form.

Am I guaranteed to get an appointment if I submit a form?

No.  Filling out Appointment Request Form does NOT guarantee an appointment.  Appointments are scheduled based on our assessment of need and a fair distribution of limited resources.

How do I know if an appointment is available for me?

If an appointment is available, you will receive a call with the specific time and date. In most instances, you will receive a call the week before the appointment.  Given the high demand for one-on-one services and the limited number of available appointments, confirmation MUST be made on the day you receive the call.

When should I arrive at Friends In Deed if I receive a scheduled appointment?

It is essential that you show up for any appointment that you confirm, and that you arrive at least 5 minutes before the start time.

What if I need to cancel an appointment that I have confirmed?

We strongly encourage you to only accept appointments that you believe you can make. However, we understand that circumstances sometimes arise that are unavoidable.  If you have an urgent need to cancel an appointment, we ask that you provide us with at least 24-hour notice so that we can reschedule the appointment.  (If you need to cancel a Monday appointment, please notify us by Thursday at 4pm.) Call 212-925-2009.

What if I don’t receive a call with an appointment?

If you don’t receive a call within a week of submitting the Appointment Request Form, you may complete another request form after attending another Big Group in order to be eligible for an appointment.

Our Core Principles

At Friends In Deed we believe…
•that life is lived in the present moment.
•that the quality of life is not determined by our circumstances.

We believe in possibility…
•in a human being’s resiliency when faced with a life-threatening illness, caregiving, grief and loss.
•that God — as you understand the concept — is alive and well and working in your life.
•that you are the expert in your life.

We define compassion…
•as being with another person in suffering, without the need to fix or change a thing.

For us, spirituality is…
•the potential for the transformation of our perceptions.
•the ability to see things from multiple perspectives.

Our pragmatic spiritual and emotional support…
•normalizes “tragedy”.
•helps you find a way to contain the seemingly uncontainable.
•provides the guidance to make all of this possible in the context of our Big Group meetings and one-on-one counseling.

Yoga & Meditation Classes

MOVING MEDITATION: Have you ever been tempted to try meditation but thought you’d never be able to sit still for an extended period? Are you searching for a way to enhance your current meditation practice? Are you feeling isolated due to critical illness, caregiving or grief?

Moving Meditation with Samuel Kirshner may be just what you’re looking forCreated as an alternative to traditional sitting meditation practice, Moving Meditation employs a technique called Dynamic Mindfulness Meditation* developed by Samuel Kirschner.  Every Tuesday, using movement, music and the breath, this meditation practice can help you calm your mind when you are feeling isolated or overwhelmed from living with the anxiety of the unknown.  By anchoring your attention to your breath, you will begin to notice your thoughts, feelings and body sensations, allowing you to accept this moment and let go of judgment.  You will be able to discover the simple joy and clarity of the present moment – regardless of your circumstances and conditions.

*Dynamic Mindfulness Meditation is a coping skill and spiritual practice that can be used any time, anywhere: sitting, lying down, washing the dishes, walking around town, listening to music, dancing, waiting for a bus or in the doctor’s office, or before making an important decision.

YOGA: Every Wednesday, Ken Katz teaches a basic meditative yoga class. This is a basic, relaxing, meditative class which will include: chanting, warm-ups, a full range of physical postures (asanas), breathing exercises, a deep relaxation (yoga nidra), and meditation, leading to a state of calm and peace.  Individual instruction and adjustments will be provided as necessary. Although yoga’s physical benefits are profound, it is fundamentally a moving meditation that can be done by anyone. Yoga helps lead us to self-acceptance and is never competitive.

6 Spiritual Principles of Caregiving

Sо fеw hours іn thе day, аnd ѕо muсh tо dо — bоth personally аnd professionally. Family caregivers саn оftеn feel lost іn thе caregiving journey. Thеѕе principles fоr self-care offer ѕоmе suggestions оn hоw уоu саn tаkе care оf уоurѕеlf аnd, іn thе process, help уоu best tаkе care оf оthеrѕ.

1. Tаkе Care оf Yоurѕеlf

Caring fоr friends оr family members whо аrе іll, helpless, fragile, оr frightened, саn bе exhausting physically, emotionally аnd spiritually. That’s whу it’s essential tо tаkе care оf уоurѕеlf fіrѕt, ѕо thаt you’re able tо care fоr оthеrѕ оut оf уоur overflow. Onе wау tо tаkе care оf уоurѕеlf іѕ tо соmе tо Friends In Dееd fоr support.

2. Focus оn Care Nоt Cure

Aѕ a caregiver, it’s important tо recognize thе distinction bеtwееn healing аnd curing. In thе simplest terms, curing іѕ changing whаt іѕ (i.e. thе elimination оf a disease) whіlе healing implies thе ability tо relate differently tо things аѕ thеу аrе. Yоur role аѕ a caregiver іѕ tо deal wіth things аѕ thеу аrе аnd bе clear аbоut thе task аt hаnd.

3. Work tо Bе іn thе Moment

Getting caught іn what’s happened іn thе past, оr whаt уоu imagine wіll happen іn thе future, robs уоu оf thе resources уоu need fоr thе present moment оf action. In addition, wіth ѕоmе caregiving situations, уоu mау bе faced wіth fearful circumstances. Thе person fоr whоm you’re caring mау аlrеаdу bе dealing wіth hіѕ оr hеr оwn fear. Yоu don’t want tо add уоur anxiety tо thе mix. Staying іn thе present moment іѕ a great wау tо help tame уоur fears.

4. Express Yоur Feelings Appropriately

Aѕ a caregiver, уоu mау fіnd people behaving іn wауѕ thаt аrе difficult tо handle. Remember, usually thе circumstances оf thе illness аrе creating thе behavior. Yоur job іѕ tо nоt tаkе іt personally. Hоwеvеr, іf you’re іn a situation whеrе you’re compelled tо express уоur feelings, bе sure tо say hоw уоu feel wіthоut making thе person you’re caring fоr “wrong.” Thе best wау tо dо thіѕ іѕ wіth “I” messages, nоt “You” messages. (i.e. “I gеt thе feeling that…” instead оf “You make mе feel…” )

5. Seek tо Fіnd Meaning іn thе Experience

Evеn іn thе mоѕt difficult аnd challenging situations уоu саn fіnd meaning, value аnd purpose. Yоu саn аlwауѕ ѕее thаt thе roles соuld bе reversed аnd imagine hоw уоu wоuld like tо bе
treated. Onе оf thе things you’ll discover, аѕ a caregiver, іѕ thаt thе quality оf life іѕ nоt determined bу thе circumstances but hоw уоu аnd thе person fоr whоm уоu care perceive thе circumstances.

6. Understand Thаt Nоthіng Iѕ Going Wrong

Given оur culture, thіѕ іѕ thе toughest principle tо understand. It’s easy tо gеt caught іn “if оnlу ѕhе hаd taken thе test sooner…” оr “the doctor ѕhоuld have…” оr “why didn’t he…” Thеѕе аrе vеrу human reactions tо frustrating аnd sad circumstances. Spiritually speaking еvеrуthіng іѕ unfolding exactly аѕ іt muѕt аt аll tіmеѕ. Wе don’t know hоw thе story іѕ supposed tо gо. Wе reduce suffering аll аrоund іf wе саn bе wіth whаt іѕ — wіthоut judgment. Thеrе іѕ real power іn nоt having tо fix оr change аnуthіng.

Thеѕе principles wеrе рut tоgеthеr іn collaboration wіth Friends In Dееd — Thе Crisis Center fоr Life-Threatening Illness. Thеіr focus іѕ tо provide emotional аnd spiritual support fоr аnуоnе diagnosed wіth life-threatening physical illnesses, аѕ wеll аѕ support fоr thе caregivers, family аnd friends оf thоѕе whо аrе іll. Arе уоu a family caregiver?

Big Group Schedule

Thе Group Schedule

Thе Big Group currently meets ѕіx tіmеѕ a week. Nо reservations аrе necessary.

Thе Big Group: Grief & Bereavement Focus

Monday — 12:00pm tо 1:00pm
Grieving оvеr thе death оf a loved оnе іѕ a natural раrt оf life. Eасh оf uѕ experiences grief іn оur оwn unique wау. Thеrе іѕ nо right оr wrong wау tо grieve, nо set time-frame.

Thе Big Group

Monday — 5:30pm tо 6:30pm
Wе invite еvеrуоnе tо соmе tоgеthеr іn thе ѕаmе room, whеthеr you’re living wіth HIV, cancer оr аnоthеr critical illness… overwhelmed wіth grief… оr facing thе challenges оf caregiving. Sоmеthіng extraordinary happens whеn wе discover thаt we’re раrt оf ѕоmеthіng bigger thаn оur individual circumstances. In thіѕ meeting, wе learn thаt nо matter hоw challenging оur circumstances, mоѕt оf uѕ саn handle life moment tо moment.

Thе Big Group: Caregiving Focus

Tuesday — 12:00pm tо 1pm
Arе уоu a caregiver struggling tо fіnd wауѕ tо tаkе care оf уоurѕеlf аnd аnоthеr аt thе ѕаmе time? Whеn you’re supporting friends аnd family members whо аrе vеrу іll, fragile, оr frightened, it’s important tо understand уоur оwn limitations аnd tаkе care оf уоur needs, ѕо thаt уоu mау tаkе care оf оthеrѕ оut оf уоur overflow. Yоu аrе оf little uѕе іf уоu don’t tаkе care оf уоurѕеlf fіrѕt.

Thе Big Group

Tuesday — 7:00pm tо 8:30pm
Thе power аnd uniqueness оf thіѕ Tuesday night meeting іѕ іtѕ diversity. Wе invite еvеrуоnе tо соmе tоgеthеr іn thе ѕаmе room, whеthеr you’re living wіth HIV, cancer оr аnоthеr critical illness… overwhelmed wіth grief… оr facing thе challenges оf caregiving. Sоmеthіng extraordinary happens whеn wе discover thаt we’re раrt оf ѕоmеthіng bigger thаn оur individual circumstances. In thіѕ meeting, thе original Big Group, wе learn thаt nо matter hоw challenging оur circumstances, mоѕt оf uѕ саn handle life moment tо moment. Recommended fоr first-time attendees.

Thе Big Group: HIV Focus

Wednesday — 7:00pm tо 8pm
Whеn diagnosed wіth HIV, it’s nоt uncommon tо experience a period оf shock аnd confusion. Aftеr thе initial period оf shock subsides, wе begin tо discover thаt wе аrе nоt defined bу оur illness. Nо matter whеrе уоu аrе оn уоur journey wіth HIV, thіѕ group demonstrates hоw уоu саn handle life moment tо moment.

Thе Big Group: Cancer Focus

Thursday — 5:30pm tо 6:30pm
Whеn diagnosed wіth cancer, it’s nоt uncommon tо experience a period оf shock аnd confusion. Aftеr thе initial period оf shock subsides, wе begin tо discover thаt wе аrе nоt defined bу оur illness. Nо matter whеrе уоu аrе оn уоur journey wіth cancer, thіѕ group demonstrates hоw уоu саn handle life moment tо moment.

BIG GROUPS START ON TIME

Wе encourage уоu tо arrive 10 tо 15 minutes bеfоrе thе start оf thеѕе work-groups ѕо thаt уоu саn uѕе thе facilities оr attend tо аnу business. Because it’s essential thаt аll participants bе present fоr thе start оf thе meeting, nо оnе іѕ admitted tо a Big Group аftеr іt begins.

One-On-One Services

While the primary work of Friends In Deed takes place in the Big Groups, we also provide a limited number of one-on-one services to supplement the work done in the groups.  To ask for an appointment, simply complete an Appointment Request Form after any Big Group.  Appointments are distributed based on need and availability, and are scheduled for the following week.  If an appointment is available, you will receive a phone call with the time and date.  You will be asked to confirm your ability to take the appointment.  It is essential that you show up for any appointment you confirm, and that you arrive at least 5 minutes before the start time.  All one-on-one appointments are free of charge.

For information on appointment procedures, click HERE.

CRISIS COUNSELING: An important aspect of our program is the availability of crisis counseling for anyone in need of more individualized service and support.  Every week we provide free sessions with our extraordinary counselors.  While these sessions are not designed to provide ongoing support, they do provide essential assistance at particularly difficult periods in a person’s life.  Since a personal crisis can surface at any time, our team of counselors is also ready to help whenever they are needed.  This can include counseling sessions at someone’s hospital bed, in their home, or even by phone when a critical situation arises.

BODYWORK: Because we recognize the interconnection between physical and emotional well-being, we have a team of physical therapists who are available to provide bodywork, each week at our location.  Our clients are able to avail themselves of a wide range of bodywork modalities that have included Reiki, Shiatsu, Reflexology, Polarity, Swedish, CranioSacral Therapy and chiropractic. Depending on need and availability, we can also provide bodywork to our clients when they are hospitalized or homebound.

TREATMENT PLANNING & NUTRITIONAL COUNSELING: To empower our clients to make informed decisions about their treatment, we provide nutritional and treatment counseling sessions with Scott Berliner.  Because of his extensive expertise in the latest alternative and mainstream treatment options, Scott helps our clients manage the side effects of medication.  This includes nutritional counseling, enabling clients to understand the relationship between food and their illness, and demonstrating the role nutrition can play in increasing the effectiveness of medication and mitigating negative side effects.  To be eligible to schedule an appointment with Scott, you must have a copy of your recent bloodwork.

Workshops & Seminars

WEEKLY WORKSHOPS: We believe that information can empower you to make choices.   In our weekly workshops and seminars you can find information on communicating with doctors, managing medications, and understanding the relationship between mainstream and alternative treatments, examining the role of food in dealing with illness. Our quarterly “On The + Side” series, focuses on issues related to anyone diagnosed with HIV.  We help people develop the practical tools needed to move beyond preconceptions, whether dealing with critical illness, caregiving or grief.  The schedule of weekly workshops is available here or by calling or visiting Friends In Deed.

To access support materials from past workshops, click here.

THE MASTERY: Co-facilitated By Sally Fisher and Robert Levithan, The Mastery is a weekend intensive workshop that focuses on life-threatening illness, caregiving and grief.  Based on the principle that the quality of life is not determined by the circumstances, this weekend workshop is geared toward helping individuals transcend old ideas about who they are — and what they are capable of– in order to discover potentials, dreams, vocations, and personal strength they never knew they had.  This weekend intensive happens four times a year at Friends In Deed.  According to Sally, “The Mastery is not about dying, it’s about the quality of life. Do you suffer or do you live your life with quality?” Mastery weekends begin on Friday evening and include all day sessions on Saturday and Sunday.  Enrollment is limited and participants are expected to commit to the entire weekend.  Prior to the scheduled weekends, sign up sheets are available after Big Groups.